Positive Faith in Scripture: God Protects

Don’t fear, because I am with you;

don’t be afraid, for I am your God.

I will strengthen you,

I will surely help you;

I will hold you

with my righteous strong hand.

Isaiah 41:10, CEB

Yesterday we started unpacking some of God’s positive attributes (compassion, mercy, patience, love)- knowing these things is really going to inform and shape our ability to have a “positive faith.”

Another of these traits is God’s protection and his desire to help. In a culture that has talked way too much about the bad things God wants to do to you (not true, by the way), it’s hard to imagine that God’s desire, truly, is to be helpful.

Time and again scripture speaks to God’s desire to strengthen his people, to work through them when they’re too exhausted to do the work themselves, to hold them up when they can’t stand.

He is not a God who desires to harm- nor is he distant. His desire is to give his people everything they need to keep moving in the direction of compassion, mercy, patience, and love.

Positive Faith in Scripture

“The thief enters only to steal, kill, and destroy. I came so that they could have life—indeed, so that they could live life to the fullest.”

John 10:10, CEB

All too often faith is treated more like death than life. What I mean is, faith is (in certain contexts) about all the things you’re not supposed to do. It’s about behavior management, conformity, keeping up appearances, and so on. So much attention is given to what you “should not” be doing that you become paralyzed and unable to answer the question: what “should” I be doing? Or, even better, what would I like to do?

This question often scares people of faith. We assume that what we would “like” to do with our lives must somehow be “wrong” and a sign that we’re not living according to God’s way of being. I would suggest the opposite: if we’re grounded in our certain way of seeing and, as much as we can reasonably expect to, prioritizing grace, mercy, forgiveness, and love, then our “wants” for our lives probably line up with God’s desires. This is the essence of living by the Spirit.

After all, Jesus did not come to offer a life where we’re constantly white-knuckling it, at war with ourselves and others, uncertain of what we want to pursue, and living in the shadow of our shame and our fears about who and what we are.

The questions have been answered: We are God’s beloved children: drawn in and accepted for who we are with the promise of becoming even more. And Jesus came to offer fullness of life: a life where we can, in freedom, pursue the things that create a sense of being completely and totally alive and in love with the world and all that God has created.

Freezing for Survival

Yesterday I talked about wanting to run, punch, yell, kick and bite as survival strategies. But there is a second strategy - FREEZE. Freeze is its own unique little bundle of joy. This is the response our body makes when it decides we are too slow to run or too small to fight. It's the "play dead" survival strategy. This is the end of the line for survival strategies.

I have heard the stories over and over. Men and women using their little girl and boy voices to mourn their inaction in the face of abuse as children. They ask: "Why didn't we tell someone? Why didn't I protect my little sister? Why didn't I DO something?" It is unsatisfying and unhelpful so I do not say it, but this I know: if you froze, it was your body making the best choice it knew to make at that time.

If this ever happened to you, I pray you know this. Freezing is our last resort attempt to survive..and if you did this, it worked because you are reading this blog. But...you may still suffer the ill-effects because you know what happened...your stress cycle was not completed.

Afterwards, our bodies still have all those amazing chemicals that we could have used for fighting and fleeing if we had been capable. If our freeze move works, then our body begins to shake and shudder. We do not have a good way to describe this sensation, but it is our body doing what it does. It's the physiological way the body ends the stress cycle. Crying is a good example of this, even if it feels like there is no good reason to cry! There is! Listen to your body!!

A Problem Solver…

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear -- not absence of fear."

Mark Twain

"Expecting life to treat you well because you are a good person is like expecting an angry bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian."

Shari R. Barr

I don't think I'm much of an influencer, but, if being practical and solving problems is helpful - I'm your girl. I can find a problem when no one else is even looking - which can be anxiety producing. Others might not understand how I work, it might be hard to notice that my fear does not arise from the problem but more often from the belief that others are not paying attention to the problems that will arise as a result of ignoring important realities. I am also decent at problem solving, keeping the people I love safe and being predictable. Need action and adventure? Keep looking. But if you appreciate loyalty and steady commitment from a person, I'm you gal.

Could this be you? Can you think of others in your life who have this capacity and inspire you?

Big T, Little t

We regularly talk about trauma in our community. We define it as either Big T trauma (a one-time cataclysmic event) or Little T trauma (think of it as the steady drip drip drip of being in a non-nurturing environment). These two kinds of trauma make it hard for some of us to recognize that we are experiencing the consequences of living with untreated trauma.

Do you wonder if you might be feeling the effects of trauma? One symptom is feeling different from others. Traumatic experiences (big or little) typically feel surreal. We are likely to minimize or excuse them - especially the Little T traumas. The type of trauma can dictate how an individual feels different or believes that they are different from others. Traumas that generate shame will often leave survivors feeling alienated from others. Feeling bad or fearing that they might behave badly, trauma survivors makes it even more unlikely that they will seek support and healing.

This sneaky trauma response might leave us more brittle and judgmental, or too pliable and people pleasing. Here's my point: it's not enough to just try to behave perfectly or believe flawlessly or better ourselves. We need to give ourselves permission to open up our lens of compassionate self-awareness. Get more curious! Explore the ways our behavior might be more about symptoms than character or competence.

This exploration has been tremendously healing for me; I hope you will consider the possibility that life could get better but the return to joy may require taking the road less traveled.