Using Your Power for Good

"The mark of a great man is one who knows when to set aside the important things in order to accomplish the vital ones."

Brandon Sanderson

My highly successful, hard charging friends amaze me. Their focus on their goals, their ability to create an image that is attractive and inspiring, and their capacity for efficiency and multi-tasking is awe-inspiring. Until it isn't. When taken too far these amazing achievers lose sight of their own goals, their own heart, their own desires. This can become a lonely existence and these folks often feel like they will die if they stop achieving. For balance, these folks need to look for their values and try to make more heart connections with the people that they are influencing - because trust me, these folks are influential!

Could this be you? Is it time to evaluate whether your power is used for good...or not?

Friends with Clay Feet

"A leader ... is like a shepherd. He stays behind the flock, letting the most nimble go out ahead, whereupon the others follow, not realizing that all along they are being directed from behind." Nelson Mandela

Oftentimes when I think of influencers, it reminds me of folks who have learned how to look good on instagram. This is not the kind of influence that has been helpful to me. I need my people to have skin and bone on them and show up at my house or meet me for coffee. I need people who will waste time with me. I need to observe if they practice what they preach, and on the occasions when they cannot do so, acknowledge it. I like to SEE the clay feet, not just the Photoshopped version that shows up on social media. (Who named it that anyway? Is social media really SOCIAL?)

All my influencers have very clay feet, which helps me take them seriously. In my inner sanctum of trusted friends, everyone is a hot mess now and again. It turns out, that for each of our super powers, we have an accompanying limitation. When we know this, we can plan accordingly. Tomorrow, we will chat about that!