Affirming and Appreciating goes a long way

It takes two to speak the truth - one to speak and another to hear.

- Henry David Thoreau

One of the reasons Linda and I can discuss conflict in communication issues is because we habit this habit of working to see and affirm what is good in the other person. This makes for a safe environment for opening up about what is not working as great as it could in the relationship.

It’s crucial that we not assume the other person knows how much we care about them and see them from a place of unconditional positive regard. This can be true especially in relationships where we see each other often. Heck, some weeks I spend more time with Linda than I do with my husband.

It’s helpful in all relationships to not be stingy with affirmations. This makes it easier to speak, and easier to hear - all the time.

We can affirm another by -

* Wishing them well - Good luck this weekend!
* Showing affection - You’re such a good friend!
* Gratitude - Thanks for listening to me!

CHALLENGE: It is tempting to believe that relationships improve when we constantly correct small issues. It is ok to do that, so long as you are first and foremost, taking time to give honest affirmations. You cannot lie in an affirmation, or exaggerate, that’s manipulation. But we can all look for ways to affirm! Affirm away! See what happens!